The Queer Life radio show Ep 75 – Charlize Veritas

Thank you to Kaiya Kramer of The Queer Life in allowing me to be a guest on her show. I only hope that something I said helped in some way.

(Click here to be taken to the recording of the broadcast.)

Talking about being transgender can be tricky as we all are different people with our own opinions. I know I have my triggers and so must others as well. I did my best to be respectful of all people while on the show.

Episode 75

I am most grateful to Kaiya for allowing me my first experience to tell my story in this medium. Honestly, I was curled up in bed the whole interview, but by the second half I felt more at ease. I really enjoy Kaiya and having a conversation with her is always refreshing. Perhaps it’s because we are both transwomen, or perhaps we’re just good people.

Thank you Kaiya!

 – Charlize <3

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Men vs Women – Hormones – a Transgender Perspective Huffington Post Blog

I wrote this article for hetero-normal couples in hopes that it would give them more insight into their partner’s perspective. Having been male and now transitioning to female, I’ve had the privilege of experiencing both view points and in this case, the affects of hormones on the body.

(Click here to be taken to the article on the Huffington Post Blog.)

Please do not view this as sexist. I am not saying that one sex is better than another. I also am not going into the other genders as this piece is meant for cis-gender people to have an idea of how the other sex lives.

I used scientific data to illustrate commonly known issues in a jovial manner. My assumptions are not scientific of course, but hopefully you can come away from this piece with a simple way of explaining how our hormones affect us differently and a little knowledge of what the other is going through in life. This piece is intended to bring people together.

 – Charlize <3

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When I Finally Understood That I have White Privilege

The moment I realized I had white privilege didn’t come until I started driving a BMW.

Let me first explain, I grew up poor. My friends were poor. We lived in poor neighborhoods and eventually moved up to a modest one.

Due to systemic racism, many people of color are poor. So growing up, I had friends of color. To me it didn’t mean anything. I was a child. They were children. We all wanted the same things but couldn’t afford it. We all played in the same parks. We all related to each other because we were poor.

That’s what bound us together.

So I didn’t grow up racist. People were people and they all had struggles. That’s what I saw.

As I got older I started to realize. We’d get in trouble and I was told to go on my way. I didn’t grow up thinking people of color were any different. I didn’t understand.

Then one day I was driving my BMW like greased lightning down the highway when after passing a beater of a car, I saw the cop on the side of the road radaring everyone.

Now I’m thinking, “Great. This is the last thing I need” as I see him hit the lights and come towards me in pursuit.

But he doesn’t pull me over.

He pulls over the beat up car with two Latinos inside.

You know, the car I went flying past?

That’s when it really hit me. I was doing 10 more than him easy but because of their race and the car they were driving, they were profiled.

That was the moment I first felt sick to my stomach because I was white. But not so much that as the fact that because of something completely outside of someone’s control, they were being oppressed and I was allowed to go.

I have a deep seeded sense of right and wrong. Of Justice.

I still think to myself, “You should have pulled over. You should have said something. But you didn’t.”

It’s going to take all white people to put back what we did wrong and the first step is just to admit it.

 – Charlize <3

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