This is my fourth post on the Huffington Post Blog and I wrote it to help illustrate the complexity of coming out as transgender to your partner so that our allies could better understand, but also to remind any transpeople still in the closet that they need to speak their truth. If you love your partner and more importantly yourself, there is no time like now to begin your future.
I can’t tell you enough how special Erin is. No other partner of mine ever stood up to me and told me straight out, “No. You’re not leaving me.” When she said those words, it stopped me dead in my tracks.
I had never met anyone as stubborn as me or even capable of combating my stubbornness. I was dumbfounded
I tried several times to break up with her but I couldn’t because truthfully I love her and you can’t hide from the truth.
We laugh about the moment when I finally told her on the bed.
She had been reading a book before we talked through everything till I was assured that she still loved me and would continue to. That’s when she asked if it was ok for her to go back to reading her book.
I, of course, had no objections. I was in my own world, flabbergasted. I kept asking her if this was real. It was hard for me to believe.
But she smiled and kept reading.
Of course it was way more complicated than that, but we like to joke that I told I was transgender and she basically said;
“That’s cool, mind if I go back to reading now?”
Yeah. She’s that awesome and I love her always.
– Charlize <3
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