Category Archives: Charlize

When I Finally Understood That I have White Privilege

The moment I realized I had white privilege didn’t come until I started driving a BMW.

Let me first explain, I grew up poor. My friends were poor. We lived in poor neighborhoods and eventually moved up to a modest one.

Due to systemic racism, many people of color are poor. So growing up, I had friends of color. To me it didn’t mean anything. I was a child. They were children. We all wanted the same things but couldn’t afford it. We all played in the same parks. We all related to each other because we were poor.

That’s what bound us together.

So I didn’t grow up racist. People were people and they all had struggles. That’s what I saw.

As I got older I started to realize. We’d get in trouble and I was told to go on my way. I didn’t grow up thinking people of color were any different. I didn’t understand.

Then one day I was driving my BMW like greased lightning down the highway when after passing a beater of a car, I saw the cop on the side of the road radaring everyone.

Now I’m thinking, “Great. This is the last thing I need” as I see him hit the lights and come towards me in pursuit.

But he doesn’t pull me over.

He pulls over the beat up car with two Latinos inside.

You know, the car I went flying past?

That’s when it really hit me. I was doing 10 more than him easy but because of their race and the car they were driving, they were profiled.

That was the moment I first felt sick to my stomach because I was white. But not so much that as the fact that because of something completely outside of someone’s control, they were being oppressed and I was allowed to go.

I have a deep seeded sense of right and wrong. Of Justice.

I still think to myself, “You should have pulled over. You should have said something. But you didn’t.”

It’s going to take all white people to put back what we did wrong and the first step is just to admit it.

 – Charlize <3

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Video Games Allow Transpeople to Be Themselves – HuffBlog

Being Transgender, video games were more than just an escape from reality but an escape from my body itself. They allowed me to be female if only in pixel form and if only temporary.

(Click here to be taken directly to my post on the Huffington Post Blog site to read the full article.)

But there is value to this like a sort of therapy for us. It brings relief.

In my article, I asked a few friends to tell me about their experiences as well. I represent two individuals from the female camp and two from the male tribe.

It’s interesting to see how each had their own experience and to read about them. Please read the article on the Huffington Post Blog site and then feel free to come back here and comment if you like.

Due to Facebook’s policy of having to have your legal name displayed, transgender people are left with no choice but to go by a moniker that likely brings them pain each time they must use it.

Alas, using Facebook’s comments plugin is an easy way to add comments to your site and not have to moderate them too harshly. Please realize this and that the problem lies not with the site itself, but with Facebook. We have to take the fight directly to Facebook. The more people we can get to protest Facebook’s policies the better. It will be the only way for change. There is no reason they can’t have your legal name for the safety of others, while simultaneously allowing you to display your preferred name to the public. It is a simple database issue.

Until then, I have removed the Facebook comments from this post and once again allowed the normal comments section! This idea was formed by a suggestion that was made by Jack B on Twitter in relation to the article. You will have to sign up for the site by using this link and create an account, as I would still like to moderate the comments. The “Meta Links” section has everything you need to login and even create your own avatar because here,  you can use whatever name or profile pic you desire! (Provided it’s polite.)

Also, by signing up you’ll receive updates when a new post is live!

So, please tell me how video games have changed your life as a Transgender person. Feel free to speak your peace!

– Charlize <3

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The Attack On Jacie Leopold – HuffPost Blog

TRIGGER WARNING: THE FOLLOWING CONTAINS GRAPHIC IMAGES OF VIOLENCE AGAINST A TRANSGENDER WOMAN.

When I first read Jacie’s post on Facebook, I was stunned in every sense of the word. Shocked. Frightened. What I saw could easily happen to me or any one of my sisters in arms. I looked for more information about her attack online and didn’t find any. All I could find was a local blog post about her speaking at the Transgender Day of Remembrance in Fayetteville just last year. So I contacted her to see if she would confide in me to tell her story to the world and she did. For this I am honored:

Click the link here to be taken directly to the post about the attack on Jacie Leopold on the Huffington Post Blog

Jacie’s story is not a unique one as this is happening right now, all around the world. She is very lucky to be alive today and to have been able to speak at a TDOR event instead of being one of the names read out at it. The names of the Transgender people we’ve lost.

Here is Jacie’s original Facebook post:

Hi my name is Jacie. I am a 33yr old transwoman living in Arkansas. I came out as transgender well over a year ago….

Posted by Jacie Leopold on Thursday, January 28, 2016

 

You can help to stop Transgender violence by being our voices when we cannot speak. By being our friends, getting to know us and helping others to see that we are people just like them. You can help by standing up for us when no one is around. By shutting down and putting a stop to violence in the very place it starts:

The hateful words of another.

 – Charlize <3

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