Category Archives: Transgender

Video Games Allow Transpeople to Be Themselves – HuffBlog

Being Transgender, video games were more than just an escape from reality but an escape from my body itself. They allowed me to be female if only in pixel form and if only temporary.

(Click here to be taken directly to my post on the Huffington Post Blog site to read the full article.)

But there is value to this like a sort of therapy for us. It brings relief.

In my article, I asked a few friends to tell me about their experiences as well. I represent two individuals from the female camp and two from the male tribe.

It’s interesting to see how each had their own experience and to read about them. Please read the article on the Huffington Post Blog site and then feel free to come back here and comment if you like.

Due to Facebook’s policy of having to have your legal name displayed, transgender people are left with no choice but to go by a moniker that likely brings them pain each time they must use it.

Alas, using Facebook’s comments plugin is an easy way to add comments to your site and not have to moderate them too harshly. Please realize this and that the problem lies not with the site itself, but with Facebook. We have to take the fight directly to Facebook. The more people we can get to protest Facebook’s policies the better. It will be the only way for change. There is no reason they can’t have your legal name for the safety of others, while simultaneously allowing you to display your preferred name to the public. It is a simple database issue.

Until then, I have removed the Facebook comments from this post and once again allowed the normal comments section! This idea was formed by a suggestion that was made by Jack B on Twitter in relation to the article. You will have to sign up for the site by using this link and create an account, as I would still like to moderate the comments. The “Meta Links” section has everything you need to login and even create your own avatar because here,  you can use whatever name or profile pic you desire! (Provided it’s polite.)

Also, by signing up you’ll receive updates when a new post is live!

So, please tell me how video games have changed your life as a Transgender person. Feel free to speak your peace!

– Charlize <3

Cover image credit: Charlize Veritas

The Attack On Jacie Leopold – HuffPost Blog

TRIGGER WARNING: THE FOLLOWING CONTAINS GRAPHIC IMAGES OF VIOLENCE AGAINST A TRANSGENDER WOMAN.

When I first read Jacie’s post on Facebook, I was stunned in every sense of the word. Shocked. Frightened. What I saw could easily happen to me or any one of my sisters in arms. I looked for more information about her attack online and didn’t find any. All I could find was a local blog post about her speaking at the Transgender Day of Remembrance in Fayetteville just last year. So I contacted her to see if she would confide in me to tell her story to the world and she did. For this I am honored:

Click the link here to be taken directly to the post about the attack on Jacie Leopold on the Huffington Post Blog

Jacie’s story is not a unique one as this is happening right now, all around the world. She is very lucky to be alive today and to have been able to speak at a TDOR event instead of being one of the names read out at it. The names of the Transgender people we’ve lost.

Here is Jacie’s original Facebook post:

Hi my name is Jacie. I am a 33yr old transwoman living in Arkansas. I came out as transgender well over a year ago….

Posted by Jacie Leopold on Thursday, January 28, 2016

 

You can help to stop Transgender violence by being our voices when we cannot speak. By being our friends, getting to know us and helping others to see that we are people just like them. You can help by standing up for us when no one is around. By shutting down and putting a stop to violence in the very place it starts:

The hateful words of another.

 – Charlize <3

Cover image credit: Stokkete (Shutterstock)

The Story Behind Our Last Name and My Cover Photo

When Erin and I were getting married we came to the point about making a decision over our last names. We could leave them alone, we could hyphenate them, or… what? Chose one of the two names?

The whole concept of the name change originally was to instill a sense of family and unfortunately, ownership.

We could not agree with that ideal, so we were stumped.

Then the idea came to us.

Why not chose a new name? One that was just for us. Something to signify our union. We did like the notion of instilling family and what better way to represent our family?

We both love Latin, with Erin having studied it in high school.

We played around with words until we settled on something we could both believe in:

Truth

And so we chose Veritas.

Due to legalities, we’ve only managed to change my name so far and are going to have that retroactively changed on our marriage license, then see if we can use the law to allow her the standard marriage change over.

We’ll see how that pans out.

The picture was taken the day of our wedding. I wanted this shot from the beginning of our planning.

My cousin-in-law had to take it of course since I was in it and I’m ever so grateful and will be always.

Here we are tying the knot. Both figuratively and literally.

We took strips of purple ribbon and attached Velcro at the ends. Placing the ribbon through the rings, we hung them around our necks so that the rings would rest right on our hearts during the ceremony. Then when it came time to exchange the rings, we pulled the ribbon off our neck and let them fall into the other’s hand. We weren’t just exchanging rings or vows, we were exchanging hearts.

We were giving each other our Love.

 – Charlize <3

Cover image credit: Matt Segraves