First thing when you awake in the morning, exclaim out loud to yourself and to the universe something positive that you know you will achieve that day, something that will inspire you. Be very careful that it’s something you can control and in case you didn’t know; there’s only one thing you can control…
Don’t say, “Today, I finally have a date and I’ve planned for a whole week now to make sure everything is perfect!” or “Today, I’m finally going to see that new movie that kept me on the edge of my seat by just watching the trailer! Luckily I got a day off before it left the theaters!” or “Today, I’m going to buy that dress I saw a month ago in the window of a fancy boutique downtown because I’ve finally saved enough and I deserve it!”
None of these things are within your control.
The date could fall through because of something that has nothing to do with you. They came down with food poisoning, legitimately and are sitting at home crying while their body battles the virus in disgusting and painful ways. What’s worse is that they haven’t been on a date for longer than you and are thinking that they may have missed out on the love of their life because of circumstances outside their control. To top it off, they know it looks like a blow off excuse on the first date and they’re so afraid you’ll never call back that they never do.
The movie could burn half way through due to a young projectionist who’s sleep deprived because they have to work three jobs to pay for their widowed mother’s health care so she doesn’t die of cancer and “I’m sorry but that was the last copy. You can get a refund though if you wait in line.”
“Oh that dress, I apologize but that was sold 30 minutes before you got here. So sorry honey, but you were right to catch your eye on that beauty. It was a one of a kind,” says the store attendant in response to your inquiry.
Now how do you feel just hearing these possibilities? How many times has this or something similar already happened to you? How did you react?
After a day of hard work, be it physical or mental, we all want the same thing… a little happiness to make it all “worth it”.
But it was already worth it anyway, whether you know it or not. Because everything we do is significant and changes the world. We’re not meant to know the full extent of our actions because we’re not supposed to focus on an event after it has passed. It takes from us our presence of mind and causes us to ignore the moment at hand, the now. It’s really all you have. Even this. You reading this is just a moment and when you finish that moment is gone forever.
Now, you could never call the date back because you’re sick and tired of being blown off and you made some awesome plans for this one didn’t you? Now your whole night is shot and you’ve got prepaid reservations you can’t cancel and an ego filled with enough pride to prevent you from calling anyone “last minute” for fear of being seen as desperate, dumped and a “loser.”
You could go to the manager of the theater and complain that your night was ruined along with all the others pinning their anger on another person. Due to complaints, the projectionist is fired and now has only two minimum wage paying; part time jobs and mother’s meds need a refill tomorrow. Looks like they will live on beans and ramen for another month. A fact they keep hidden from their mother so she doesn’t feel guilty. Even up to lying about going out with friends when the truth is they parked at the street corner and sat alone all night eating one peanut butter and jelly sandwich except there was no jelly and there was no bread.
When you leave from the apparel store, you could cry and say, “I never get what I want! I can’t have nice things! No matter how hard I try, someone always beats me to it. I’m worthless!” Then you spend the money on pizza and junk food which causes you to gain weight perpetuating your self-hatred.
That’s not to say that everything won’t go as planned. Things normally do except for those people that believe they always don’t, but do you see where the sabotage comes from?
Challenge yourself. When you wake up tomorrow say out loud to yourself and the universe what you know can be only be stopped by you.
“Today, I’m going to be the best me that I’ve ever been. I will go places and I will have experiences. I will see them for what they are and not think in binary terms of right and wrong, or good and bad, but in terms of only how I can make the situation better. If I fall, I will get up. If I’m hurt, I will heal. If I believe, then greatness will come to me and through me. I will not be distracted from my purpose. When plans change, I will change plans. One thing today is certain, regardless of the world around me; today, I will be the best me that I have ever been.”
You choose. You always have. You are the lowest common denominator in every experience you’ve ever had. Throughout your entire life there has always been that one person who was always there and that person is you. Realize that you do have control, even when everything is crashing down upon you, you can look at the falling sky and say, “Wow! What a pretty color! I never would have seen that if the world didn’t end right in front of me.”
Emotions are a choice. I can say something innocent and it will make one person laugh till their sides hurt while another condemns me.
Every day is a new, unpredictable adventure. Savor it.
Don’t let negativity bring you down. Rise up.
Your date cancelled, but you decide to go anyway. There is a reason for everything and you can’t know it. You can’t calculate it. While you sit at the table all by yourself you realize someone very attractive is sitting behind you at a table alone. They are looking about the room as if searching for something that isn’t there and they only have a glass of water and bread sticks on the table. You lean back and say, “You too?” They say, “Yeah.” Three years later you two marry each other.
The movie burned up, so you go to find out what happened. People are yelling at this poor kid but you don’t. In fact you tell the mob to back off. You simply and compassionately ask the young employee, “What happened?” And this person begins to cry in front of everyone. They spill their sorrows on to a crowd of strangers because it’s been so bottled up inside them the pressure finally broke. An old man comes forward from the crowd and asks the mother’s name as the story seems familiar to him. Upon hearing it, he too breaks down in tears because that woman was his college sweetheart and he’s been searching for her for years. He did well for himself in the stock market, but his greed chased away the only woman he ever loved and now he can use the money to save her as well as enroll the now jobless projectionist in film school, where they become a famous filmmaker whose first movie centers around a person whose simple act of compassion to a stranger led many people to their dreams and their destiny.
You turn to the clerk at the store and say, “No honey, I’m one of a kind.” You leave and pass the pizza parlor to continue on to a museum you never knew was there. You decide to go in. A beautiful piece of art catches your eye and you stare at it immensely as you’ve never had a painting touch you so emotionally. Then suddenly you are startled as you realize a stranger has been beside you for some time, but is also mesmerized by the spirit of this glorious creation. They turn to you and say, “I’ve always wanted to create something like this, but my drawing skills aren’t the best. They’re fine for what I do. My art is my fashion, but I’m not well known, yet. Luckily a store down the street let me display one of my finest pieces in their window and someone bought it! My first sale! Honestly, I didn’t know how I was going to make rent this month. I have a master’s degree for crying out loud and when I leave here, it will be to take the bus home. Oh my, I’m so sorry, I shouldn’t be telling you all this.” To which you reply, “Would you be interested in making another one, but in a different color?”
You never know what will happen if you keep on keeping on, as they say. If you want to find out just how far you can go, you just have to do one thing that someone wiser than me once said:
“The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.”
– Original Author Unknown
– Charlize <3
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