Thank you to Kaiya Kramer of The Queer Life in allowing me to be a guest on her show. I only hope that something I said helped in some way.
(Click here to be taken to the recording of the broadcast.)
Talking about being transgender can be tricky as we all are different people with our own opinions. I know I have my triggers and so must others as well. I did my best to be respectful of all people while on the show.
I am most grateful to Kaiya for allowing me my first experience to tell my story in this medium. Honestly, I was curled up in bed the whole interview, but by the second half I felt more at ease. I really enjoy Kaiya and having a conversation with her is always refreshing. Perhaps it’s because we are both transwomen, or perhaps we’re just good people.
Thank you Kaiya!
– Charlize <3
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TRIGGER WARNING: THE FOLLOWING CONTAINS GRAPHIC IMAGES OF VIOLENCE AGAINST A TRANSGENDER WOMAN.
When I first read Jacie’s post on Facebook, I was stunned in every sense of the word. Shocked. Frightened. What I saw could easily happen to me or any one of my sisters in arms. I looked for more information about her attack online and didn’t find any. All I could find was a local blog post about her speaking at the Transgender Day of Remembrance in Fayetteville just last year. So I contacted her to see if she would confide in me to tell her story to the world and she did. For this I am honored:
Click the link here to be taken directly to the post about the attack on Jacie Leopold on the Huffington Post Blog
Jacie’s story is not a unique one as this is happening right now, all around the world. She is very lucky to be alive today and to have been able to speak at a TDOR event instead of being one of the names read out at it. The names of the Transgender people we’ve lost.
Here is Jacie’s original Facebook post:
You can help to stop Transgender violence by being our voices when we cannot speak. By being our friends, getting to know us and helping others to see that we are people just like them. You can help by standing up for us when no one is around. By shutting down and putting a stop to violence in the very place it starts:
The hateful words of another.
– Charlize <3
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This is my fourth post on the Huffington Post Blog and I wrote it to help illustrate the complexity of coming out as transgender to your partner so that our allies could better understand, but also to remind any transpeople still in the closet that they need to speak their truth. If you love your partner and more importantly yourself, there is no time like now to begin your future.
(Click here to be taken to the article on the Huffington Post Blog.)
I can’t tell you enough how special Erin is. No other partner of mine ever stood up to me and told me straight out, “No. You’re not leaving me.” When she said those words, it stopped me dead in my tracks.
I had never met anyone as stubborn as me or even capable of combating my stubbornness. I was dumbfounded
I tried several times to break up with her but I couldn’t because truthfully I love her and you can’t hide from the truth.
We laugh about the moment when I finally told her on the bed.
She had been reading a book before we talked through everything till I was assured that she still loved me and would continue to. That’s when she asked if it was ok for her to go back to reading her book.
I, of course, had no objections. I was in my own world, flabbergasted. I kept asking her if this was real. It was hard for me to believe.
But she smiled and kept reading.
Of course it was way more complicated than that, but we like to joke that I told I was transgender and she basically said;
“That’s cool, mind if I go back to reading now?”
Yeah. She’s that awesome and I love her always.
– Charlize <3
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