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Men vs Women – Hormones – a Transgender Perspective Huffington Post Blog

I wrote this article for hetero-normal couples in hopes that it would give them more insight into their partner’s perspective. Having been male and now transitioning to female, I’ve had the privilege of experiencing both view points and in this case, the affects of hormones on the body.

(Click here to be taken to the article on the Huffington Post Blog.)

Please do not view this as sexist. I am not saying that one sex is better than another. I also am not going into the other genders as this piece is meant for cis-gender people to have an idea of how the other sex lives.

I used scientific data to illustrate commonly known issues in a jovial manner. My assumptions are not scientific of course, but hopefully you can come away from this piece with a simple way of explaining how our hormones affect us differently and a little knowledge of what the other is going through in life. This piece is intended to bring people together.

 – Charlize <3

Cover image credit: Ned Frisk (Getty Images)

The Story Behind Our Last Name and My Cover Photo

When Erin and I were getting married we came to the point about making a decision over our last names. We could leave them alone, we could hyphenate them, or… what? Chose one of the two names?

The whole concept of the name change originally was to instill a sense of family and unfortunately, ownership.

We could not agree with that ideal, so we were stumped.

Then the idea came to us.

Why not chose a new name? One that was just for us. Something to signify our union. We did like the notion of instilling family and what better way to represent our family?

We both love Latin, with Erin having studied it in high school.

We played around with words until we settled on something we could both believe in:


And so we chose Veritas.

Due to legalities, we’ve only managed to change my name so far and are going to have that retroactively changed on our marriage license, then see if we can use the law to allow her the standard marriage change over.

We’ll see how that pans out.

The picture was taken the day of our wedding. I wanted this shot from the beginning of our planning.

My cousin-in-law had to take it of course since I was in it and I’m ever so grateful and will be always.

Here we are tying the knot. Both figuratively and literally.

We took strips of purple ribbon and attached Velcro at the ends. Placing the ribbon through the rings, we hung them around our necks so that the rings would rest right on our hearts during the ceremony. Then when it came time to exchange the rings, we pulled the ribbon off our neck and let them fall into the other’s hand. We weren’t just exchanging rings or vows, we were exchanging hearts.

We were giving each other our Love.

 – Charlize <3

Cover image credit: Matt Segraves

When Your Body Is a Prison, a Transgender Life – HuffBlog

The last 3 days have been a wild ride. Thank you to everyone for their kind words! I truly cried tears of joy. 💜

Tuesday morning, I fell deep into my depression and in my darkest moment, I chose to document my feelings in an essay instead of receding more into myself. With nothing to lose, I went about steps to submit it to the Huffington Post which is a news outlet that I respect and read daily.

I never expected that I would get a return email that day asking for my story and providing me with blogging credentials. My only assignment was to bring it down to 1000 words or less.

With adrenaline flowing and my mind blown away by the excitement, I spent the entire night editing down the piece so that I would be able to submit it in the morning after my credentials had been authorized.

I’m not entirely sure of whom the final editor was on the piece but I would like to thank them very much for making it even more concise and especially for adding the suicide hot line link at the end. Which it the most important part of the piece. Please: Seek help!

Around 14:30 Central Time Thursday the article went live with the link to the crowdfunding project I created to help me finally see myself. Not many people realize that about 43% of all transgender people are unemployed, myself included. 42% have attempted suicide at least once in their life. In comparison the average person has a 4% chance of attempting to end their life.

But I don’t want to drop back into the morbidity of the situation.

What I want to do is thank the universe. All of it. Including you.

Thank you!

Before I could even share the article, we had received a donation. Erin and I were brought to tears. And then another. Words cannot express our gratitude.

Today I need to finish configuring the crowdfunding page so as to provide more information to those seeking to donate, but I’m going to take my time. It’s been an emotional couple of days.

Still, you can find the link if you wish to donate inside my Huffignton Post Blog and know that Erin and I both love you for it. You’ll be able to watch a life become what it should have always been right before your eyes and know that you had a hand in that.

Even in your darkest moment, and I know it’s ever so hard, but even then you can still pick yourself up.

Share your truth with the world and you might just be surprised. 😊

Click here to read the article on Huffpost Gay Voices

  – Charlize <3

Cover image credit: Arief Juwono (Getty Images)