Tag Archives: transgender

Video Games Allow Transpeople to Be Themselves – HuffBlog

Being Transgender, video games were more than just an escape from reality but an escape from my body itself. They allowed me to be female if only in pixel form and if only temporary.

(Click here to be taken directly to my post on the Huffington Post Blog site to read the full article.)

But there is value to this like a sort of therapy for us. It brings relief.

In my article, I asked a few friends to tell me about their experiences as well. I represent two individuals from the female camp and two from the male tribe.

It’s interesting to see how each had their own experience and to read about them. Please read the article on the Huffington Post Blog site and then feel free to come back here and comment if you like.

Due to Facebook’s policy of having to have your legal name displayed, transgender people are left with no choice but to go by a moniker that likely brings them pain each time they must use it.

Alas, using Facebook’s comments plugin is an easy way to add comments to your site and not have to moderate them too harshly. Please realize this and that the problem lies not with the site itself, but with Facebook. We have to take the fight directly to Facebook. The more people we can get to protest Facebook’s policies the better. It will be the only way for change. There is no reason they can’t have your legal name for the safety of others, while simultaneously allowing you to display your preferred name to the public. It is a simple database issue.

Until then, I have removed the Facebook comments from this post and once again allowed the normal comments section! This idea was formed by a suggestion that was made by Jack B on Twitter in relation to the article. You will have to sign up for the site by using this link and create an account, as I would still like to moderate the comments. The “Meta Links” section has everything you need to login and even create your own avatar because here,  you can use whatever name or profile pic you desire! (Provided it’s polite.)

Also, by signing up you’ll receive updates when a new post is live!

So, please tell me how video games have changed your life as a Transgender person. Feel free to speak your peace!

– Charlize <3

Cover image credit: Charlize Veritas

The Attack On Jacie Leopold – HuffPost Blog

TRIGGER WARNING: THE FOLLOWING CONTAINS GRAPHIC IMAGES OF VIOLENCE AGAINST A TRANSGENDER WOMAN.

When I first read Jacie’s post on Facebook, I was stunned in every sense of the word. Shocked. Frightened. What I saw could easily happen to me or any one of my sisters in arms. I looked for more information about her attack online and didn’t find any. All I could find was a local blog post about her speaking at the Transgender Day of Remembrance in Fayetteville just last year. So I contacted her to see if she would confide in me to tell her story to the world and she did. For this I am honored:

Click the link here to be taken directly to the post about the attack on Jacie Leopold on the Huffington Post Blog

Jacie’s story is not a unique one as this is happening right now, all around the world. She is very lucky to be alive today and to have been able to speak at a TDOR event instead of being one of the names read out at it. The names of the Transgender people we’ve lost.

Here is Jacie’s original Facebook post:

Hi my name is Jacie. I am a 33yr old transwoman living in Arkansas. I came out as transgender well over a year ago….

Posted by Jacie Leopold on Thursday, January 28, 2016

 

You can help to stop Transgender violence by being our voices when we cannot speak. By being our friends, getting to know us and helping others to see that we are people just like them. You can help by standing up for us when no one is around. By shutting down and putting a stop to violence in the very place it starts:

The hateful words of another.

 – Charlize <3

Cover image credit: Stokkete (Shutterstock)

My Tolerance For Pain – From the Eyes of Another

I handle pain well. What most people would consider painful, I can bare, but just because I can does that mean I should? I still feel the same pain they do.

I think this does me a disservice. You see, I’m like the British in this manner, “Oh dear, it would appear my arm has been just been separated from my body. Well I must say, this certainly will make texting most rather difficult.”

Ok, I’m not to that level. Ask my wife. If I get a kidney stone, I’ll be screaming Bloody Mary.

But I feel like doctors see this nonchalance and brush me off. Recently in dealing with my teeth, the doctor gave me codeine when I asked for something stronger.

His response, “You appear to be handling the pain fine so that should do the trick.”

Now, I wanted to grab him by the arm, pull him in close to me and say softly, “Listen Doctor, I don’t care what you think you see. I’m in pain. Now I think it’s time you start taking my words seriously or we’re both going to be experiencing the same level of pain together, and I’m not sure you want that.”

I wanted to do that, but that would make me seem like a crazy person and certainly wouldn’t accomplish my goal. I’m working very hard not to come off as the crazy type, so these actions would be counter to my “Remain Sane” agenda. Therefore I chose a different route.

I smiled and agreed.

Then I began to realize something.

I never smile and agree.

What is this? As a male I demanded what was coming to me and the world be damned if I didn’t get it.

And I got it.

Now, I just don’t feel like my opinion is heard or matters.

Is this because I’m transitioning?

Is this the activation of preprogrammed behavior combined with the lack of competition creating testosterone, compounded by the preprogramming of the other individual now that they see me as female?

I thought females were the “weaker” sex. So give me my pills right?

That can’t be it.

Or could it?

I don’t know. Right now, I’m going to chalk it up to trying to be pleasant when I want to scream my head off. Next time, I’ll choose the latter. They usually just give me whatever to shut me up then.

And that’s fine with me.

 – Charlize <3

Cover image credit: Unknown